1. Never praise your parents ( us )before your in laws. We know how
to command respect and honor. We don't need you for that. If you
praise us , then some day you may have to hear criticism also.
2. Take particular care of the sisters of your husband. ( If daughter is happy, mother is happy) !3. Don't react to any one's conduct vis a vis other. They might be
having their own reasons, old issues supporting the conduct.
4. Give your views if there is need. Do not insist. Never talk with
your in laws reg your husband. They know him better than you !
5. Never talk regarding your in laws with your husband ! He knows
them better than you.
6. Don't bother if they talk with your husband regarding you. They
are entitled to do that. He is their son/ brother !
7. Do whatever mother in law tells you. Don't reply back , even if
she is bit harsh/unreasonable! It takes two to fight.
8. Never talk leave aside complain about any one to your husband.
A lot of things loose significance of their own. Talking about them
only prevents their natural death.
9. You simply do your duty. Serve your in laws more than you served
us. There is no ego of yours vis a vis them. Because you are agent
of your husband before them. Serve them not as "your" Mother/
Father/Sister in law . Serve because they are mother/father/
of "your" husband. Act not in your independent capacity vis a vis
them, but as agent of your husband. Then nothing will hurt you.
Because you have not established any relationship of your own. All
relationships are due to relationship of your husband. ( Once you
are an agent, ego reduces drastically)
10. Respect everyone, but be "devoted" to only your husband.
11. If your husband talks about any of his relations, bad or good,
listen and ignore. Say – you are the best judge. Never add fuel to
the fire. If according to you he is wrong, say so with reasons.
12. Take particular care of children in your sasuraal. Spend money
on them. Love them really.
13. Never tell a lie to any one particularly to your husband- come
what may ! If you don't want to say – better boldly say " I don't
want to comment" than " I don't know" , if you really know. Eitherkeep mum or speak truth as a law. Truth prevails.14. Never compare before any one your parents' house and your newhome.
15. Be pro active in household work. Become happy if you are
required to do some more work on some day. Never hesitate in working
more. The body doesn't depreciate if you work more. It becomes
stronger. Feel happy if you have lightened someone else" work
load. " I will work, you take rest" – this should be the goal.
16. SELF RESPECT means respect of self by self not respect of self
by others. Doing one's duty diligently is real self respect.
to command respect and honor. We don't need you for that. If you
praise us , then some day you may have to hear criticism also.
2. Take particular care of the sisters of your husband. ( If daughter is happy, mother is happy) !3. Don't react to any one's conduct vis a vis other. They might be
having their own reasons, old issues supporting the conduct.
4. Give your views if there is need. Do not insist. Never talk with
your in laws reg your husband. They know him better than you !
5. Never talk regarding your in laws with your husband ! He knows
them better than you.
6. Don't bother if they talk with your husband regarding you. They
are entitled to do that. He is their son/ brother !
7. Do whatever mother in law tells you. Don't reply back , even if
she is bit harsh/unreasonable! It takes two to fight.
8. Never talk leave aside complain about any one to your husband.
A lot of things loose significance of their own. Talking about them
only prevents their natural death.
9. You simply do your duty. Serve your in laws more than you served
us. There is no ego of yours vis a vis them. Because you are agent
of your husband before them. Serve them not as "your" Mother/
Father/Sister in law . Serve because they are mother/father/
of "your" husband. Act not in your independent capacity vis a vis
them, but as agent of your husband. Then nothing will hurt you.
Because you have not established any relationship of your own. All
relationships are due to relationship of your husband. ( Once you
are an agent, ego reduces drastically)
10. Respect everyone, but be "devoted" to only your husband.
11. If your husband talks about any of his relations, bad or good,
listen and ignore. Say – you are the best judge. Never add fuel to
the fire. If according to you he is wrong, say so with reasons.
12. Take particular care of children in your sasuraal. Spend money
on them. Love them really.
13. Never tell a lie to any one particularly to your husband- come
what may ! If you don't want to say – better boldly say " I don't
want to comment" than " I don't know" , if you really know. Eitherkeep mum or speak truth as a law. Truth prevails.14. Never compare before any one your parents' house and your newhome.
15. Be pro active in household work. Become happy if you are
required to do some more work on some day. Never hesitate in working
more. The body doesn't depreciate if you work more. It becomes
stronger. Feel happy if you have lightened someone else" work
load. " I will work, you take rest" – this should be the goal.
16. SELF RESPECT means respect of self by self not respect of self
by others. Doing one's duty diligently is real self respect.
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